Saturday, November 11, 2006


It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.
I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.
On exam, it was well-healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, and got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.
While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.
The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.
As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.
I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."
I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."
True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

Monday, November 6, 2006


My cellphone buzzed, and from a friend with unlimited texting credits, I got this message:


1st is yourself;
2nd is the one you love the most;
3rd is the one who loves you the most;
and the 4th is the one you spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly in real life, these 3 people are usually not the same person.

The one you love most, doesn't love you...
The one who loves you most, is never the one you love most...
and the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who loves you most;
S/He is just the person who happens to be at the right place, at the right time...

Isn't it true? How sad is the fact that most marriages happen not because of "true love", but rather because the persons involved just wanted to "settle down"...and that most of us go through life never really finding our "soul mate", and we end up sharing our life with the wrong person who just happened to be at the right place, at the right time; but we just learn to love, and teach our hearts to love anyway, and never realize that we missed that one great love supposed to be meant for each person's lifetime...

Deep down inside, in the farthest reaches of our mind, and in the most secret corners of our hearts, there is something missing, but we deny and ignore it, and try to fill that void with the everyday details of our mundane existence until we reach the end of our lives convinced that we have lived a full and happy life.

And so we die, and for those who have not found their soulmates, it is said they are reborn so they may go through life once more and try to find their "missing half" search all over again...
So, what's the point of it all? Especially since these days, it's freakin' hard to find somebody to "settle down" with, much less a "soul mate" who simply "rocks" your world and sends sparks of electricity all over your body, mind, and soul. Just how long will you search? Or should you wait? How in the world do you recognize your soul mate?

Aw, sheesh! Who the heck knows? Not I, that's for certain. Cause, well, you know, I AM still searching...
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